Wade Deeper

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Sometimes it is scary confronting the real reasons why we feel the way we do. Sometimes we learn things we may not want to truly face. And, sometimes it is in finally confronting those “unwell” feelings and unmet needs that we can inch closer to feeling ease, peace, joy, and deeper purpose. There is no shame here at SALT when we get scary honest with ourselves. Come as you are.

Guess What?

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SALT practices teach us to become clear about why we are feeling the way we do. From here we can figure out what need(s) we have and more calmly communicate, inquire, and make requests. This approach drives connection and lowers the defenses. The digs, nagging, and yelling are strategies to meet a need, and a yearning for connection is actually often at the root of these “behaviors.” However, these “behaviors” often lead to disconnection, the opposite of what we truly want.

We often observe people ignoring one another, shutting down, or increasing the digs, nagging, and yelling because it’s what we were modeled and the underlying need continues to remain unmet and unaddressed for us. If you can relate to this, SALT practices can help. Practice makes progress, and practice coupled with vulnerability and ownership creates shifts.

Knots

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When I first learned about nonviolent communication it was at a time in my life when everything seemed so out of control. My thoughts and feelings were completely knotted to the point that I experienced an anxiety attack. It was then that I began making self-care a priority. SALT shares some best practices, lifelines if you will, to help ease the overwhelm, build a sense of curiosity, lean into vulnerability, and learn ways to more gently love – starting with self-love. Unwinding our knots takes time, a commitment, patience, and a relentless belief of being worthy.

Shame

if we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. – brené brown

Shame – that story of not being good enough. The ways we internalize shame has the ability to erode the soul. Soul injuries are real. Learning the lifelong tools to help with meeting your shame with compassion and curiosity is what we share at SALT. We have the ability to control how shame shapes our story. We can learn to be that someone to ourselves.

Synonymous

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When we are clear about what is important to us, the better we are at designing a meaningful and purposeful life. SALT can help identify what needs we have that can bring us closer to whatever a “life well-lived” looks like to each of us. As someone who works in the field of death and dying, I am certain that intentional living helps with contentment at the end of life. Let SALT help bring intention and purpose to our days by identifying what needs are most important to meet during our days here on earth.

Triggers are Telling

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Sometimes we get “hooked,” as Pema Chödrön shares. We find ourselves triggered, often feeling frustrated, angry, resentful, hopeless.  It’s only natural; We are human after all. These triggers however are very telling. They are alerting us to an unmet need. Once we can identify the need, we can start to find different ways to address it and/or met it. SALT lends teachings on ways to help us get “un-hooked.” Troll along, friends…

Grounded

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The SALT logo is a cleat. A cleat is a piece of anchoring equipment. At SALT we see it as a symbol of being grounded. So often we are pulled in a multitude of directions, and it helps to know that SALT practices can help us operate and engage from a more stable, secure, reassured, calm, centered place.

Feelings and needs identification is always available to us. SALT practices are here to serve as a guide to greater self-awareness. May they be your guiding light on this unmapped journey called life.