what a lovely surprise this morning to be greeted by studio newport who is turning social distancing due to the coronavirus into neighborly connection … a beautiful offering to the community and a creative way to document kindness during such an unforeseen time. click here to see more of this project taking place around aquidneck island!
hi friends, i invite you to check out a special online event offered by the one and only, kurtis lee thomas! i have been fortunate enough to meet kurtis and experience this a few times in-person, and i can say it is one of the most eye-opening experiences i’ve ever had. now here’s your chance to open yourself up to something new and transformative during this time of awakening.
click here to get your ticket – limited quantity available!
how’s everyone fairing out there? it is a weird and trying time. we are seeing many wonderful acts of kindness shining through, and at the same time, we are seeing a lot of fear-based living being brought to the surface by this coronavirus pandemic. i have been trying to stay centered and am giving myself permission to engage in things i find meaningful and important.
though we are all in this same boat of uncertainty, we are all weathering the situation differently. here are the top 10 ways i’ve been embracing the forced pause during this unexpected time. may we all be gentle with ourselves and each other.
rather, ten times, die in the surf, heralding the way to a new world, than stand idly on the shore. – florence nightingale
working / appreciating from home (and trying to keep my sense of humor alive) – i have coined #frontlinefriday #frontlinefridaychallenge, after “dateline friday” which i love, at my office to show appreciation to our staff who are tirelessly working the hospice frontline
they motivate us to play, be affectionate, seek adventure and be loyal. – tom hayden
playing and cuddling with my dog
some old-fashioned things like fresh air and sunshine are hard to beat. – laura ingalls wilder
i am not interested in the show you’re putting on for the world. i crave vibrant + honest conversations tucked away in the quiet corners of coffee shops. i want to know what sets your soul on fire, the moments that shaped you into who you are today + what it is that makes your eyes light up when you talk ; community that is stripped down to the bone – no expectations, no judgements, just the complexities of your heart, pure + simple. – l.d.
one of the most profound ways support our well-being is to examine our inner child wounding and work towards reparenting ourselves around them. to some degree we have ALL been wounded as a child, regardless of intent or duration. these wounds remain within us consciously and mostly unconsciously, and show up in our adult lives in ways that often lead to further wounding.
gaining insights and learning ways to support ourselves around these wounds can yield clarity, relief, and greater self-awareness. tending to our inner child as adults is a skill known as “reparenting.” reparenting is an impactful way to improve relating to self and others, which can ultimately help to meet our need for quality connections and improve well-being.
reparenting involves giving ourselves what we did not receive as a child. much easier said than done, but not impossible and totally worthwhile. this has implications that can truly transform lives – nonviolent communication coupled with reparenting and non-shaming self-talk has done just that for me.
looking at our triggers and behaviors can be helpful to us as we hone in on inner child wounding and reparenting. check out the lists below to consider your experience. which of the following inner child wounds below speaks most to you? perhaps you won’t experience all of the items under the lists, but in general, which list(s) do you most identify with? are there a few areas that speak to you?
inner child wounds
feels “left out”
fears being left
hates being alone
threatens to leave
normally attracts emotionally unavailable people
feels “sorry” or “bad”
doesn’t like to ask for things
uses guilt to manipulate
is afraid to set boundaries
normally attracts people who make them feel guilty
is afraid to be hurt
doesn’t trust themselves
finds ways to not trust people
feels insecure and needs a lot of external validation
doesn’t feel safe
normally attracts people who don’t feel safe
struggles to let things go
has low self-worth
gets angry easily
struggles to say “no”
fears being vulnerable
normally attracts people who don’t appreciate them or make them feel “seen”
are you able to recall experiences in your childhood that caused the wounding you’ve identified with? can you think of examples of how these wounds relate to you as a child, and also now as an adult? without judgement or shame, think honestly about how these wounds show up in your adult life. what “behaviors” do you tend to display when your wounds are triggered? what steps can you take to reparent yourself when you are triggered to help with emotional recognition, validation, and regulation?
what does that little one in you need to feel or hear? can you give it to yourself? how does it feel? try it, over and over in the days to come … do you notice a shift in how you feel? are you able to meet your own needs? i believe in you, and i believe with a continued conscious practice you can.
in february of 2016 i was introduced to the class by taryn toomey, and i’ve been hooked and girl crushing since!
i was headed to the dominican and on the flight happened to be a group of stylish, spirited girls. i learned they were going on a retreat. i simply observed them and became intrigued, wondering who they were and what exactly they were doing on their retreat. upon my return home i did a little digging and learned a bit more about this celeb-endorsed “the class.”
in 2018 elyse and i took a trip to nyc to attend a thom bond workshop at NYCNVC, and the next morning we visited the tribeca studio and experienced the class led by taryn herself – it was amazing!
a few months ago my soul sister, makayla, attended a class as part of the philly tour and learned that the class was soon going to be offered digitally! for my birthday i paid the $40/monthly fee (or $400/year) to give it a try, where i now have access to live-streamed classes daily right from the comforts of my home. how cool!
i started my 37th year at 7:15 am participating in the hour-long practice of what i like to call “emotional exercise.” it’s similar to SALT, in that it is somewhat hard to describe, and better experienced. i highly recommend it!
i can guarantee that – you will move. you will dance. you will love the music. you will be inspired. you will want to stop. you will be sore after. AND, you may cry. you may yell. you may improvise. you may have interesting thoughts. you may laugh. and with each class, you may heal a little bit more … i have not experienced anything like it.
here are some pics from my 1st digital class. they are a little bit blurry because they are screenshots (and clearly filtered, lol) from a homemade video, but they give you an idea of what you may be doing during it! #divedeeplivewell
every next level of your life will demand a different version of you. – unknown
i can’t wait to do it again this morning! and remember, i am SO not a morning person, so this is really something! hand on heart … thank you, taryn. thank you, body. thank you.