The Anatomy Of Trust

Have you ever thought about the anatomy of trust? We all throw the word “trust” around, but what does it really mean?

In 2015 Brené Brown, my favorite author, gave a talk on one of Oprah’s Super Soul Sessions on trust. She broke down how she defines trust using the acronym BRAVING. To watch this part of the talk, click here.

Boundaries – be clear about boundaries ; hold boundaries ; respect boundaries

Reliability – do what you say you will do – over, and over, and over again ; be honest about and communicate limitations

Accountability – when mistakes are made own them, apologize, and make amends ; allow the same for others

Vault – maintain confidentiality ; share only what is yours to share ; avoid “common enemy intimacy”

Integrity – choose courage over comfort ; choose what’s right over what’s fun, fast, and easy ; practice, not just profess, your values

Nonjudgement – refrain from judging self and others

Generosity – make generous assumptions and check-in

When the talk first came out I was at a place in my life when trust was really being questioned in multiple areas of my life. This really got me seriously thinking about it. I thought if I could get a better handle on what “trust” meant to me then maybe it could be a game changer.

To learn more about how this changed my life and how I define trust, check out my self-guided study, #DIVEDEEPLIVEWELL.

There have been times in my life when knew I didn’t trust someone or something, or even myself. “Something seems off,” might be something I’d say. Yet, I don’t remember pinpointing exactly why trust was missing.

Today, thanks to the help of Brené, the NVC lists, and the many life experiences giving me plenty of practice, I am able to identify why trust does or does not exist, and clearly communicate about why. Even further, I can identify body sensations and feelings that usually bubble up for me when I am feeling mistrust. These sensations and feelings can act as sensors alerting me that a need is probably not being met, which is great self-awareness and perhaps a signal to change course!

It is my hope that this post may help or inspire you to think about what trust means to you. As brené said, “when we trust, we are braving connection,” and again, I believe connection is why we are all here. #divedeeplivewell

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