make space for the next version of you. she’s coming. – spirit daughter
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what a lovely surprise this morning to be greeted by studio newport who is turning social distancing due to the coronavirus into neighborly connection … a beautiful offering to the community and a creative way to document kindness during such an unforeseen time. click here to see more of this project taking place around aquidneck island!
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how’s everyone fairing out there? it is a weird and trying time. we are seeing many wonderful acts of kindness shining through, and at the same time, we are seeing a lot of fear-based living being brought to the surface by this coronavirus pandemic. i have been trying to stay centered and am giving myself permission to engage in things i find meaningful and important.
though we are all in this same boat of uncertainty, we are all weathering the situation differently. here are the top 10 ways i’ve been embracing the forced pause during this unexpected time. may we all be gentle with ourselves and each other.
rather, ten times, die in the surf, heralding the way to a new world, than stand idly on the shore. – florence nightingale
working / appreciating from home (and trying to keep my sense of humor alive) – i have coined #frontlinefriday #frontlinefridaychallenge, after “dateline friday” which i love, at my office to show appreciation to our staff who are tirelessly working the hospice frontline
they motivate us to play, be affectionate, seek adventure and be loyal. – tom hayden
playing and cuddling with my dog
some old-fashioned things like fresh air and sunshine are hard to beat. – laura ingalls wilder
i am not interested in the show you’re putting on for the world. i crave vibrant + honest conversations tucked away in the quiet corners of coffee shops. i want to know what sets your soul on fire, the moments that shaped you into who you are today + what it is that makes your eyes light up when you talk ; community that is stripped down to the bone – no expectations, no judgements, just the complexities of your heart, pure + simple. – l.d.
one of the most profound ways support our well-being is to examine our inner child wounding and work towards reparenting ourselves around them. to some degree we have ALL been wounded as a child, regardless of intent or duration. these wounds remain within us consciously and mostly unconsciously, and show up in our adult lives in ways that often lead to further wounding.
gaining insights and learning ways to support ourselves around these wounds can yield clarity, relief, and greater self-awareness. tending to our inner child as adults is a skill known as “reparenting.” reparenting is an impactful way to improve relating to self and others, which can ultimately help to meet our need for quality connections and improve well-being.
reparenting involves giving ourselves what we did not receive as a child. much easier said than done, but not impossible and totally worthwhile. this has implications that can truly transform lives – nonviolent communication coupled with reparenting and non-shaming self-talk has done just that for me.
looking at our triggers and behaviors can be helpful to us as we hone in on inner child wounding and reparenting. check out the lists below to consider your experience. which of the following inner child wounds below speaks most to you? perhaps you won’t experience all of the items under the lists, but in general, which list(s) do you most identify with? are there a few areas that speak to you?
inner child wounds
feels “left out”
fears being left
hates being alone
threatens to leave
normally attracts emotionally unavailable people
feels “sorry” or “bad”
doesn’t like to ask for things
uses guilt to manipulate
is afraid to set boundaries
normally attracts people who make them feel guilty
is afraid to be hurt
doesn’t trust themselves
finds ways to not trust people
feels insecure and needs a lot of external validation
doesn’t feel safe
normally attracts people who don’t feel safe
struggles to let things go
has low self-worth
gets angry easily
struggles to say “no”
fears being vulnerable
normally attracts people who don’t appreciate them or make them feel “seen”
are you able to recall experiences in your childhood that caused the wounding you’ve identified with? can you think of examples of how these wounds relate to you as a child, and also now as an adult? without judgement or shame, think honestly about how these wounds show up in your adult life. what “behaviors” do you tend to display when your wounds are triggered? what steps can you take to reparent yourself when you are triggered to help with emotional recognition, validation, and regulation?
what does that little one in you need to feel or hear? can you give it to yourself? how does it feel? try it, over and over in the days to come … do you notice a shift in how you feel? are you able to meet your own needs? i believe in you, and i believe with a continued conscious practice you can.